At this particular point of time in my life, everybody around me is having babies. And mostly, their second. While for some this is a natural extension of their brood; for others, it is a result of external factors such as family demands, societal pressure, fertility (or rather infertility) alerts and so on and so forth.
For starters, the all-important decision of having ONE, TONS or even NONE of them is extremely personal. Secondly, as cliché as this may sound, there is no right or wrong here. And finally, whatever your decision might be, it can have a life-changing magnitude. My point is, with something as huge as this, none of the external pressures should matter in reality.
Based on my interactions with people around me, here are a couple of interesting observations and opinions on the subject:
- Not wanting kids is entirely normal. In today’s day and age, it is believed that raising kids is no longer a pre-requisite for leading a fulfilling life.
- A record percentage of women don’t have kids. Some do not want it, some cannot have it and some are still searching for answers. Whatever be the case, a woman’s choice to live child-free is not a readily-accepted one.
- There are some women who want kids, just not right NOW. Technically, women hit their fertile peak between the ages of 23 and 30. After which, fertility levels start declining steadily.
- In complete contrast, women successfully have children till their 40’s and 50’s (given the advancement in baby-making technology). Hence, there seems to be no right age. Although, there is a right TIME.
- The only right time to have a baby is when you and your partner are ready – physically, mentally and hopefully, financially 🙂
- Although our culture propagates the idea that an ideal family should have 2 kids in it (preferably a boy and a girl), the number of one-child families is statistically higher today.
- The most obvious benefit of having a single child is that much more time parents can give to it. The most obvious disadvantage – having no sibling to grow up with 🙁
- Rising expenses and sibling squabbles aside, there is research to substantiate claims that families with more children are likely to be happier that those with one or none at all. After all, parents with 2 or more children in their brood would agree – wherever you go, life is one, big PARTY!